What is Mental Masturbation

Mental Masturbation is human's favorite activity 

As we are taking so much of inputs from movies, Instagram, Facebook, news etc. We get inspired by many people, we admire other people's lifestyle, we get agitated with other political leaders actions, we get envy many people whose life is simply perfect.

So we get to talk with someone like our friends we want to sound perfect by talking about all these things you gonna do for getting your dream car, dream life, things you wish you had to make certain things better in your life, you would have done it differently if that person were you. 

That is okay. That's how group conversations made many life changing decisions for country. And also what else you got to talk with your friends? You cannot talk about productivity all the time. you got to judge few people for their bad behavior, you got to do hate talks for few people for the things that they have done for their petty desire. That way you can avoid those actions in your life and you are ensuring with your friends that they follow these moral behaviors.   

BUT 

One thing you got to do after that is you got to take steps to achieve what you said before.

Say you have to learn this skill to make your career better (Say Full stack Development)

Step 1: Just make up your mind that you will be a better full stack developer in next 3 months (say 90 days)

Step 2: Split the materials you gonna study into 3 parts. 

Step 3: Silently spend 1hour no matter what you got to finish that 1hour for sure to study it

Step 4: If you can keep going spend some more time. The more time you put the more valuable you gonna be.

Step 5: Keep going for everyday. Either you do this or don't its gonna be same like past 30 days(coz if you have done something earlier you wouldn't be reading this article to better yourself) So you got nothing to loose. 

Note: This is an advantage for you. because the people who see you doesn't gonna know about the things you are doing silently. You will get the urge to tell about this. But control yourself. If you cannot control yourself then you are beyond help. So forget about these things when you hangout with friends. 

Step 6: It will be hard for a week. But appreciate your self for doing it and believe yourself you are about to make a great impact.

Step 7: At the end of 90 days you will be a better Full Stack Developer 

Step 8: Then later if you have achieved something with your effort people will certainly notice you and ask about these efforts that you take. Then reveal it to your friends who you really care about it and who gives respect to you for your effort. If they don't value the effort that you took you should know that they envy you and certainly don't like the way you grow. So don't take these things to heart and feel bad about it. instead take another year challenge and become far better than before. Eventually the world will adapt to your actions. You will get like minded people sooner in your circle.

You are stronger than you know until you put yourself into action nobody will get to know it